1. Well, for starters, I’m not even thinking about having another child until I feel better, mentally. I worry how long this may take and wish it would just go away so I can move on with my life, but if I am to give 100% to both children, I need to do this.
2. I will give breastfeeding another shot. I only breastfed Elliott for a couple of months due to his inability to feed properly from birth, no matter what I tried. Having PND (and not realising it) made things even more difficult, I just couldn’t deal with the stress of it and had very little confidence in myself. Now that I know what I do now, I look forward to trying again. I will also buy a nice, big comfy chair. I didn’t have one for Elliott and can remember constantly getting a sore back and a very numb bum!
3. For some reason, I was quite terrible at recording milestones. I know I got some down, but I remember forgetting to do it and then relying on my memory. I was so caught up in just getting through each day that important things like this got left out. This is something I will definitely make a priority next time because it’s something that my children will look back on in the future. I know I have looked back at my albums which Mum made for me.
4. I will definitely try my hardest not to give into the dummy! As much as it was a godsend to us with Elliott, he relies on it too much at night and wakes when he can’t find it, sometimes multiple times a night.
5. Although Elliott will have a lot of ‘hand me down’ toys for his sibling, I will be asking friends and family (and grandparents especially) not to buy toys! Elliott has way too many toys and I think more than anything, I’d probably like to cull the toys we have and introduce some more educational toys, especially more wooden ones.
6. Focus more on routines. I feel better when I’m on a routine, I feel I achieve more and I know that Elliott slept so much better when we were on a routine. It was always when the routine was out of kilter that things didn’t work and we both felt terrible!
7. And lastly, I will try to trust my instinct more instead of rushing to a book, to the internet or to see what other mothers do or think. We all parent differently and no one is right or wrong, it’s what feels best for us and what is best for our children. I need to take my own advice and stop comparing myself!