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For our family, the concept of the age gap between children has gone out the window, although it probably wasn’t really there in the first place as we never really had a set age in our heads. For us, it’s always just been a matter of whenever it happens, it happens. To us there’s never really a ‘right time’ to have a baby, you just make it work.
But even if we wanted our children to be less than 3 years apart, two miscarriages happened this year (I wrote about them here and here) and made the decision for us. I won’t lie, there have been times when I’ve sat and watched Elliott quietly playing at home wishing that perhaps we had another little one to keep him entertained. But, that’s not the way it has worked out and I’ve accepted it and I look at the positives of having a bigger age gap.
Now that we will likely be faced with an age gap of about 4 years + if everything works out right in the future, I try to look at the positives for our family.
The first positive of a big age gap
The first positive is the fact that it’s given me time to ‘find’ myself. I know it sounds really cliché but the time has given me a chance to recover from postnatal depression, build my confidence and positive outlook on life. Being diagnosed with PND at 19 months postpartum, there was no way I would have coped with another baby when Elliott was less than two or just two.
The second positive
A big age gap has allowed us to get back on our feet financially after a while living on one income. I’ve had an opportunity to build my business to a point that I am contributing to the household income as well as building a business that I can manage when I do have another baby.
The third positive
I’ve been able to spend 3 wonderful years with a complete focus on Elliott (minus the first bit when I felt like utter crap with PND). When his little brother or sister comes along he will already be quite independent and not far away from starting Kindergarten. This will give me time to spend with the baby. Then when the baby is older, Elliott will be in prep and I get to spend similar time one on one just like I did with Elliott.
But with the positives there are often negatives. Mine is the fact that I’m actually really enjoying having just one child. An almost 3 year old who is mostly happy, doesn’t wear nappies anymore, can talk to me and doesn’t require as much constant attention (touch wood, this could come back to bite me), is really nice. I feel like I’ve gotten so far and am in such a good space, I worry about having to go through all the painful stuff again instead of enduring it quite close together and ‘getting it over with’.
I know that sounds a little selfish, but that’s exactly how I feel. I feel like life has a bit of a better balance now. But don’t get me wrong, I have my clucky pants on when I see other babies and wonder when it will be my turn next.
What is the age gap between your children? Did you plan it that way?
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