Are you really suffering from busyness?
How many times have you said ‘I’m busy’ when someone asks you how you are?
I reckon I’ve said it plenty of times in the past couple of weeks, but, if you know me well, you’d know that I’m the type of person who thrives on busyness because I find it hard to sit still and do ‘nothing’.
BUT perhaps I’m doing myself a disservice? Perhaps I shouldn’t be happy about the fact that I like being busy? Perhaps I have an illness called busyness and am making things harder on myself than they should be?
Being busy for no reason
Let’s face it, I’m not struggling to put food on the table and I’m not working 3 jobs to make ends meet. That is being busy for a reason. Besides having to spend a week with my son at home sick and having to juggle a child and work, my busyness is self-inflicted and I have no one else to blame!
Busyness is totally in my control.
Have you ever wanted things and people to move a little faster because you’re in a hurry, like when you’re in a slow line at the grocery store or waiting for petrol? I have and it made me feel worse because I was overreacting to the situation, hoping that in some magical way, it would create a sense of urgency in the other people in the line. It’s all mind games.
Even on days when I am super busy, it’s usually my fault because I was the one who booked in too much work or too many appointments in the first place.
It’s clear to me that I’m the one making it harder and busier on myself. Sound familiar?
Why are we so busy?
We can thank the society we live in for this need to be constantly switched on all the time. It’s the comparison on social media, needing a great career, a bigger house, nicer clothes…it’s all driving us to be better and therefore busier.
The problem with this is that we are missing out, BIG TIME. We are missing out on the world around us and we miss out on what it feels like to be present within ourselves.
There was one story I read about famous violinist Joshua Bell, who played one of the most difficult classical masterpieces ever known on a $3 Million violin in a Washington subway. Disguised as a street performer, 1000 people passed him and only 27 stopped because he didn’t look important and because people were far too busy to even notice. How sad is this!
How to remove unnecessary busyness from your life
Come on, let’s all stop being so bloody busy for no damn reason! Here’s how we can do it:
- Wake up and remind yourself every morning that you will not be unnecessarily busy or stressed
- Identify when your busyness is a choice
- Keep life in order and don’t overschedule yourself
- Learn how to say no!
- Make lists and eliminate the non-essential items in your day.
- Disconnect from the internet/social media. It’s a time waster.
- Watch less TV
- Schedule some time out for yourself
- Revisit your priorities
- Add time in your daily schedule to take time out e.g. to have a proper lunch break