While doing as I usually do, flicking through Facebook, I came across a post From Tara at Baby Guru Nutrition that pretty much stopped me in my tracks.
The heading was “Comparison is the Thief of Joy.”
I would be lying if I said I didn’t compare myself to others while scrolling through Facebook. Of course I do, most of us do. And what irks me a little, and what Tara is trying to point out in her post, is that some posts on social media are simply not a reflection of reality. The perfect baby bedrooms, the post-baby body workouts and designer baby fashion. Mums with beautiful makeup that look flawless while going to cafes with a clean toddler in tow, perfect kitchens and no-mess lounge rooms.
More to those people who can uphold that type of lifestyle, there’s nothing wrong with them, but for many, it simply isn’t achievable or even worth the effort trying to achieve.
If you think about it, it’s so easy for everyone to share what Tara calls ‘the highlight reel’ of their life. We’ve probably all done it before. You can easily take a photo of your kitchen that perfectly blocks out the mess sitting on the bench, you can take a photograph of yourself and your usually messy toddler right before you visit the café at which you and your child come home looking a little dishevelled. You can use fancy filters and editors to make your skin look more flawless.
Comparison IS the thief of joy, it sucks the joy right out of you and although it’s human nature, it’s energy destroying.
Yes, I have unfollowed social media accounts where I found every single post just too ‘perfect’. The account started off as inspiring but then, well, it just wasn’t. It wasn’t a realistic picture of how I live my life and so the inspiration quickly wore off. There’s nothing wrong with unfollowing an account that makes you feel this way, it’s nothing personal, it’s just all about you and making yourself feel a bit better. Why have to deal with stress, anxiety or lack of confidence when you could simply unfollow.
I can say that whenever I post photos of myself or my home, I do not strive to perfect it. It is what it is. There are many photographs where I am not wearing makeup because, well, that’s just me and I’m not trying to paint any other picture.
Here, take a look at my kitchen. – piles of paper, empty milk cartons, cups, plates…a family lives here.
Take a look at my office – a pigsty but that’s how I work best. .
This is what I look like today – messy hair, no makeup and unplucked eyebrows.
No editing, no cropping, no filters, it’s real. I always try to keep it real.
So why not keep it real for yourself. Filter what you see and hopefully, it will bring back some of the joy in your life. #keepitreal