Inside the World of a Special Needs Mother

Today I share a guest post with you, written by Sarah from Creating Contentment. I know how tough this was for Sarah to write this post and thank her from the bottom of my heart for allowing me to share it on my blog.


I am a special needs mother.

This is not a label I have given myself. It has been shoved upon me. I don’t want it, but I do like that it gives others a way of understanding my mothering.
I have two sons with autism. They have an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). I believe that they were born this way, but that environmental factors have the ability to make their issues both better and worse.So, I try and control these environmental factors. It is my job to ensure that they meet the potential that they have. It is my job to advocate for them so that they do not loose opportunities and are treated fairly. It is my job to be accepting of their needs and love them. It is my job to understand 
them even when they are unable to communicate.
It is a big job. It is hard. And, yet, it is no more than any mother does for her child.
I strongly believe that we are all the same. We simply love our children and want what is best for them. We want our children to be happy and well liked. We want our children to learn and to thrive. We want our children to be safe and catered for.

But, as a special needs mother, I do live in a world of extremes. A world where we celebrate every little milestone, because it took so long and so much work to get there. A world that tends to fold in on itself for protection. Protection from the outside world with its lack of understanding and acceptance.
Despite my label of special needs mother, I want what we all want. I want you to not assume that my parenting is bad or my child is naughty. I want you to give us grace and know that I am doing my best. I want you to admit that you don’t understand my world but that you empathize. I want you to be supportive of my needs, and my children’s needs. We both want to be included in your world. We don’t want to be stuck in ours.
I will forever be jealous of your lack of this label. I am so envious that you don’t know what I know. I wish for you to understand how lucky you are to not be a part of this world I live in. I wish I didn’t know the words I know, the people I do. But, still, I shall be forever grateful for the support I have gain within the disability would. Everyday, they make my job easier.
And, ultimately as a mother, this is what we all want. Our job to be that little bit easier. Not for us, but for our children. We want our children to have an easy life.


Are you a special needs mother? Does this post resonate with you?

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Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

Eva is the Editor and Owner of The Multitasking Woman - a lifestyle and parenting blog.She always has her fingers in many different pies but wouldn't have it any other way. Eva is a Mum to her 4-year-old son, 2 month old daughter, two chickens, one dog and a fish called Bob and a wife to Mr G. They all live happily in their little cottage on the outskirts of Brisbane.

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4 Comments

  1. June 19, 2014 / 5:16 pm

    Thank you Eva for giving me this opportunity to share this with you. I love the image you put with it. xS

  2. June 20, 2014 / 7:43 am

    I have read this post of Sarah’s and shared it with a friend who has a Son also recently diagnosed. I look forward to meeting you this weekend Sarah! Thanks for the replay Eva.

  3. Deb - An Inspirational Journey
    June 20, 2014 / 10:11 am

    I feel that as my journey with this will soon start, I will be able to relate to a lot of this. I feel like I already do. Brave post and thank you for sharing x

  4. June 21, 2014 / 3:01 pm

    This was a great read, thanks Sarah. There is nothing like a mother’s love and special needs children benefit from this love so dramatically. You are one of your child’s greatest assets. Thanks for sharing this so those of us without the label can help understand your world.