Kissing kids on the lips. Is it OK?
I joined the parenting panel on 612ABC Brisbane Radio yesterday and one of the topics we spoke about was kissing kids on the lips and if it was OK. You can listen to the show here.
The day before going on radio, I was told this was one of the topics we would be discussing and I was directed to this article which was published on Kidspot.
I automatically thought to myself ‘ah, this is going to be a debate about passing on germs when you kiss your kids on the lips’. But, it wasn’t really about that at all, what the debate was really about shocked me.
In the article by Kidspot, they referred to another article which suggested that kissing your children on the lips could be considered sexual and “confusing” or “stimulating”. If a child sees their Mummy and Daddy kissing and then Mummy or Daddy kiss the child, they’ll get confused. What the?
I never EVER considered this as a problem.
Yes, I am a lip kisser (only of my own child). I like to give Elliott a peck on the lips every now and then as a sign of love, just like I do with Mr. G. Elliott often comes and gives me a kiss on the lips too, it’s his way of saying “I love you Mummy” and it’s the most precious thing in the world.
There’s a big difference between kissing as a sign of love, kissing to say hello or goodbye and sexual kissing and I would never kiss Mr. G in a ‘sexual’ way in front of Elliott.
Gosh, I still kiss my parents on the lips when I see them and I’m 32. We have done it all our lives and it never ever confused me because I was raised to know the difference and boundaries.
So if this person who wrote the article suggests that kissing on the lips is a no no, what then about stroking our children on the back or holding hands? These can be used in different contexts too. Where on earth do you draw the line?
Personally, I think it all comes down to what you teach your children about the act of showing affection so they know when it’s right and when it’s not. It’s pretty simple.
What are your thoughts on this topic? Are you a lip kisser?
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