Mummies, give yourself some credit!

Mummy guilt

When mummy guilt strikes…

Do you have days and weeks like me where you get to the end and doubt yourself? Times when you feel the horrid mummy guilt?  When you ask yourself,  ‘what did I actually do with my son/daughter/kids today? Did I do enough with them this week? Should I have done more?’

This thought pattern seems to happen to me a lot, but something I read made me think about it differently. I reflected and soon realised that there’s plenty I do for Elliott every day, without even realising.

I remind myself…

  • I buy the clothes he wears
  • I buy and prepare the food he eats
  • I buy the toys and prepare the activities he enjoys at home
  • I arrange his play dates
  • I take him to the doctor
  • I buy his medication when he’s sick
  • I wash his clothes
  • I bathe him, dry him and clothe him
  • I read to him
  • I comfort him
  • I play with him
  • I teach him
  • I talk to him

And the list could go on.

It’s these basic yet essential parts of our children’s daily life that really matter. These are the things us parents do without even realising, the things that are essential to our kids’ health and happiness.

As much as it’s nice to go out and do things with our children, there will be many times when we can’t,  and that’s just part of life.

So next time you’re feeling guilty and doubting yourself for being a bad parent, why not try thinking of all the things you’ve done for your kids, the things you do every day. It’ll make you realise that you’re really not as bad as you think.

 

Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

Eva is the Editor and Owner of The Multitasking Woman - a lifestyle and parenting blog.She always has her fingers in many different pies but wouldn't have it any other way. Eva is a Mum to her 4-year-old son, 2 month old daughter, two chickens, one dog and a fish called Bob and a wife to Mr G. They all live happily in their little cottage on the outskirts of Brisbane.

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  1. October 7, 2014 / 8:03 am

    So true. We are so quick to bash ourselves about the things we think we’re not doing that we don’t pat ourselves on the back for what we are achieving. Us females are dreadful at that. It’s good to be reminded to look at the other perspective. Thank you x

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:03 pm

      Yes, we are all too tough on ourselves, especially with social media making out as though so many of us have it sorted!

  2. Malinda
    October 7, 2014 / 11:49 am

    This is so very true. I feel like with my second child that I have not organised as many activities each day and sometimes get a guilty feeling. At the end of the day all you need to ask yourself is, did you love them? The answer is always yes, no matter how naughty they have been, no matter how frustrated you were, no matter how many activities you did or didn’t do, you still loved them. That is pretty much all kids need at the end of the day. That, and food, and clean bums, and a drink, and clothes, and more food, and a change of clothes, and a cuddle and more food and maybe just one last change of clothes and … and … and … 🙂

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:02 pm

      Haha….yes, the list goes on doesn’t it, but it’s those important things that really matter.

  3. October 7, 2014 / 8:10 pm

    Beautifully put! I’m a shocker for focusing on what I haven’t done, rather than what I have. Thanks for the reminder!

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:02 pm

      Thanks Jen. x

  4. October 7, 2014 / 9:54 pm

    So very true Eva! Sorry I’ve been absent recently, had a break away, which I loved. But now back and full on. We must be kind to ourselves, very few others will be. x

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:02 pm

      Oh gosh, don’t be sorry love. This is the first week in FOREVER that I’ve actually been able to respond to comments and comment on other blogs. Hope you enjoyed your break. Loved the photos. I was very jealous because it’s my favourite place.

  5. October 8, 2014 / 9:28 pm

    Love this post Eva! So true I judge myself a lot regarding activities with the kids and I worry about what other people think I’m not doing right. Nice to get a pat on the back from another Sister!
    Elliot is a very lucky little boy to have you as his Mum. 🙂

  6. Sophie Allen
    October 9, 2014 / 9:27 am

    I think I need my boys to read this! School holidays here and they are booooored. Even though they’ve had play dates everyday! Anyhoo… school back next week! #teamIBOT

  7. October 11, 2014 / 7:18 am

    I’m all about the home “I’m bored” parenting right now. It’s a deliberate push to help my kids discover their own way of doing things. x

    • Kathy www.yinyangmother.com
      October 12, 2014 / 9:21 pm

      Sounds like a great idea Bron – when I was growing up, many, many years ago I think that was pretty much what parenting was all about. So you and you Eva of course are right – no room for guilt.

  8. October 18, 2014 / 1:12 am

    Wow that’s some list! Parents really shouldn’t judge themselves so harshly they have the hardest job!