When mummy guilt strikes…
Do you have days and weeks like me where you get to the end and doubt yourself? Times when you feel the horrid mummy guilt? When you ask yourself, ‘what did I actually do with my son/daughter/kids today? Did I do enough with them this week? Should I have done more?’
This thought pattern seems to happen to me a lot, but something I read made me think about it differently. I reflected and soon realised that there’s plenty I do for Elliott every day, without even realising.
I remind myself…
- I buy the clothes he wears
- I buy and prepare the food he eats
- I buy the toys and prepare the activities he enjoys at home
- I arrange his play dates
- I take him to the doctor
- I buy his medication when he’s sick
- I wash his clothes
- I bathe him, dry him and clothe him
- I read to him
- I comfort him
- I play with him
- I teach him
- I talk to him
And the list could go on.
It’s these basic yet essential parts of our children’s daily life that really matter. These are the things us parents do without even realising, the things that are essential to our kids’ health and happiness.
As much as it’s nice to go out and do things with our children, there will be many times when we can’t, and that’s just part of life.
So next time you’re feeling guilty and doubting yourself for being a bad parent, why not try thinking of all the things you’ve done for your kids, the things you do every day. It’ll make you realise that you’re really not as bad as you think.