Toddler Tantrums. I was hoping they wouldn’t happen until Elliott was two, but that just shows you how much I didn’t know about toddlers. Hitting, screaming, kicking, food throwing, pulling off a dirty nappy, banging doors, multiple times a day…it’s driving me bonkers and it’s been REALLY hard to keep my temper.
It was suggested to me that I start using the ‘naughty corner’ method, but I just had to laugh. I know this would work for some toddlers, but I just couldn’t imagine it working for Elliott. Not only would he not really understand , he is such a determined little thing and wouldn’t stay there for a second. But on the other hand, putting him in his cot may work as an alternative.
As much as Elliott’s tantrums are tiring and hard to deal with, I have been trying to put myself in his shoes. I know there are experts that would probably say not to do this, but I’m his mum and so I will. I try to imagine what it must be like, to be able to understand exactly what people are saying but to only know 5 words and not being able to communicate by any other way than pointing, crying, smiling or frowning. If that were me, I would be throwing a tantrum too! So, I hope that I’m right and that when he is able to communicate with us a little better, the tantrums will happen on a lesser scale. Am I hoping for too much?
So, here’s my plan to deal with the tantrums better with the aim to make life a little easier for Elliott, Myself & Mr. G.
- I’m going to start taking note of what triggers Elliott’s tantrums. Is it when he’s tired, when he’s hungry or when he’s in the car for too long, after a long shopping trip? If I can pin point this, I might be able to ‘try’ to avoid the situations.
- I’m going to take the time to really look closer at his body language and take notice of what he might be indicating he wants and then give him the words to use when he doesn’t quite know. For example, if he looks as though he wants to get up in his highchair, I’ll say “up” or “help Mummy”. Hopefully in time he will learn to use these words.
- I’m going to give the ‘naughty corner’ theory a shot but using the cot and more so focusing on it being a ‘chill out’ or ‘time out’ corner. It’s somewhere that he finds comforting and so hopefully it will make things a little easier. He’s still at the age where he doesn’t know right from wrong so this may be a good alternative to calm down a bit.
- I tend to cave in too easily sometimes just so the tantrum can be over, but silly me didn’t realise that he will continue to throw tantrums because he knows if he does this he’ll get what he wants! I have to persist and use words such as ‘Later’ or ‘After Breakfast’.
- I often forget to just walk away, breathe deeply and remind myself to keep calm. This will really help the way I deal with the tantrum and lessen the chance of me snapping. Of course making sure that Elliott is OK before take some time to regroup is important.
I know there are so many other things I could focus on but I think focusing on 5 for the moment is achievable, easy to remember and work with. Wish me luck!
How did/do you deal with your toddlers tantrums?
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