Isn’t it the best feeling when you discover you’re not the only Mum battling some sort of issue with your child? This is something I was extremely thankful for last week when I made this discovery that I was not alone.
Elliott’s fussy eating has been doing my head in, pretty much ever since he started solids. Every day we battle dinners not being eaten, a dependence on milk, screaming matches, a particular food being a favourite one day only to be completely YUK the next, and the list goes on. Putting effort into making yummy meals only for it to be pushed away is exhausting. Through this ‘living with a fussy eater’ experience I’ve rarely heard about other parents struggling with the same issues but always seem to hear about how much food peoples kids do eat and thought that perhaps we were one of the few going through this phase (a very very long phase mind you).
Well that was all until I was chatting with some other Mums just the other week and WOW did it change my perspective on things. I just wanted to jump up and down cheering when I heard one mum tell me how it was impossible to keep her child at the table at dinner time as well as getting them to eat anything and the other mum tell the group how they still had to spoon feed their son who is a couple of years older than Elliott otherwise he wouldn’t eat his dinner. I remember thinking to myself ‘Oh my gosh, that’s exactly the same as us’. Secretly I was smiling on the inside, not because I’m evil and delight in other peoples struggles, but because the journey I’d lead for 3 years thinking I was only one of a few Mums that had to endure life with a fussy eater had suddenly been lifted from me! It was in that moment that I realised that it’s nothing that I’m doing wrong, it’s simply the fact that some kids go through the phase and one of those kids happens to be mine!
Just the process of talking about our kids made me feel better, the ability to make comparison between Elliott’s behaviour and their children’s behaviour lifted my doubt.
After having the conversation with the other Mums, it also made me reflect on how important it is to share and not compare when it comes to parenting, sharing does so much more good, comparing doesn’t. I guess this is one of the reasons I blog, in the hope that me sharing my experience will make others feel less alone and more…normal!
Today I’m linking up with the ever so lovely Sarah from Creating Contentment for Thankful Thursdays.