The Importance of Father and Son Time

importance of father son time
The other day I was thinking about how much time I get to spend with Elliott compared to Mr G. There’s a BIG difference.
Mr G leaves the house at 7am every morning to return anywhere between 5.30 and 6pm. Master E is in bed at 7pm, which leaves just over one hour for ‘bonding’ time in the evening.
Mornings are usually taken up by breakfast and by Mr G getting ready. In the evening I try to have either dinner or bath done so when Mr G comes home so he can spend time either dealing with a cranky & tired child bathing or feeding Elliott. And the weekends, well amongst things that need doing around the house, the grandparents also want visits too, making it even more difficult for Mr G to squeeze in ‘father and son’ time, but there’s always time.

Why prioritising time is essential

It can be easy for Mr G to forget the limited amount of time he has available to spend with Master E. Β As much as I’m sure he’d love to come home and chill out (I would after a big day at work), prioritising time with Master E is essential. Until Elliott was 18 months old, Mummy was

Until Master E was 18 months old, Mummy was the flavour of the month, but since then, Daddy has been the shining star. Allowing time for them both to connect has been especially important, it’s quite lovely to watch.

In Steve Biddulph’s Book ‘Raising Boys’, he emphasises the importance of fathers making time with their children and that work should not take over otherwise leading to self-esteem issues in daughters and problems in life for sons. This is why the time Mr Β G spends with Master E is more important now than ever. Starting early is the key.

I sat down with Mr. G the other day and asked him what things he enjoys doing with Elliott in order to connect during the precious moments he has. This is what he told me (while in some instances I stand gritting my teeth when watching the somewhat ‘rough’ play that Elliott seems to enjoy):

  1. Wrestling, tickling and laughing
  2. Playing cars
  3. Making obstacle courses for cars out of cardboard boxes
  4. Playing Soccer on Saturday Mornings
  5. Going to the park (without Mummy)
  6. Building things around the house e.g. furniture from IKEA (although frustrating at times with Master E running away with parts, he loves the intricacies of connecting things together, putting in screws. Involving Master E in this shows him the process of how things are made)
  7. Having turns on Daddy’s lap while he drives the car into the garage
  8. Helping with the mowing

After talking with Mr G about this, it makes me realise the huge responsibilities of working Mums and Dads. I really do admire parents who have to balance work and home life with that of their children.

What type of activities does your partner/husband do to connect with your children?

Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

Eva is the Editor and Owner of The Multitasking Woman - a lifestyle and parenting blog.She always has her fingers in many different pies but wouldn't have it any other way. Eva is a Mum to her 4-year-old son, 2 month old daughter, two chickens, one dog and a fish called Bob and a wife to Mr G. They all live happily in their little cottage on the outskirts of Brisbane.

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  1. December 10, 2013 / 2:40 am

    Love the Raising Boys book. We have 4 sons, and another on the way so this is certainly important for us. Ranging from 3 to 9 years my husband does varying activities with each boy. They do all love to play video games with him, fly his remote controlled airplanes/rockets (usually into trees) and wrestling is their all time fav thing. #teamIBOT

  2. December 10, 2013 / 9:41 am

    Oh this is sooooo true! It’s a similar story at our house,the boys don’t get to see Dad until he gets home from work at around 6, then just an hour later it’s bedtime! Liam just idolises his Dad, and if he is around I’m left out in the cold πŸ™ They both love driving the car into the garage, saturday morning swimming and doing ‘man jobs’ outside and in the shed. I’m making the most of Aiden still being a Mummy’s boy whilst I can, no doubt he’ll turn too once he is older!

  3. December 10, 2013 / 11:50 am

    So important for dads to have that time with their boys. My husband is amazing in what he does, and I think he is a much better person than me! He seems to have infinite patience.
    Wrestles are probably the number one thing they do, but he usually does the bed time story at night which is great too. The kids love it. πŸ™‚

  4. December 11, 2013 / 3:40 am

    My hubby is so great with out boys, he makes so much time to spend with them, either playing in the pool, making huts of just having cuddles x

  5. December 11, 2013 / 8:23 am

    My daughter is a complete Daddy’s girl. It is so important just to have fun with our children and enjoy the time while they are young. Before they become grumpy teenagers! πŸ™‚

  6. December 11, 2013 / 9:35 am

    Great blog Eva. Our kids love going to the pool with their Dad on the weekends, the occasional trip to Bunnings or the shops in DAD’S CAR!, build great trucks with lego, cook on the BBQ and basically help with any ‘jobs’. They love their time with Dad, and he loves it also. Cheers, Alison πŸ™‚

  7. December 12, 2013 / 12:42 am

    The kids love to wrestle with Daddy here… And our son likes to go “dragon hunting” in the back yard with Daddy…

  8. January 1, 2014 / 8:04 pm

    Great blog, impressed Mr G allows Elliott to help with ikea construction! My boys love going to the tip with my husband, and vegging on the sofa! X