An Unsentimental Mum

It occurred to me yesterday that I am in fact an unsentimental mum and I feel so damn guilty about it.

I don’t know what prompted me to think about it, but I realised that I had done very little in terms of recording precious milestones┬ásince Elliott’s birth.

The worst thing is, he’s my first and only child so I really shouldn’t have an excuse.

I have an unfinished baby record book, I couldn’t tell you specifically what his first meal was, when he said his first word. Gosh, I haven’t even recorded his first hair cut (luckily I do have his locks and some photos somewhere on my computer).

Does this make me a bad mum or is it just a reflection of who I am? I’ve never been overly sentimental and often look at things that become dust collectors and things that add to the boxes of things we have to store. But I still feel bad about it, these are the things I need to be sentimental about.

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It’s got me questioning if I’ve done the wrong thing, if I should go back and try to reach deep into my brain, sift through my blog posts and document as much as I can still remember.

I don’t want Elliott to become an adult with nothing to look back on and I certainly don’t want him saying ‘my Mum didn’t really keep any records of me’.

This makes me sound like I have a heart of stone, but really I don’t. I think I’ve just let life get in the way.

Time to slow down and take stock of all the good things I think.

 

Are you ultra organised and sentimental with everything recorded and stored? Or will you admit that you’re a bit like me?

 

Today I’m linking up with Jess for IBOT

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Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

Eva is the Editor and Owner of The Multitasking Woman - a lifestyle and parenting blog.She always has her fingers in many different pies but wouldn't have it any other way. Eva is a Mum to her 4-year-old son, 2 month old daughter, two chickens, one dog and a fish called Bob and a wife to Mr G. They all live happily in their little cottage on the outskirts of Brisbane.

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11 Comments

  1. September 30, 2014 / 7:23 am

    I started off with the best intentions but have to admit, I have slacked way off. There are records of Nick’s first two years, not much after that! I’m lucky if I remember to get a pic on his birthday. I think we are going to luck out because we have boys. I think they are much less interested in all that kind of stuff than girls are. lol. At least that’s what I keep telling myself! Ahhh motherhood, always something to feel guilty about hey?? You could always just make it all up? x Aroha (for #teamIBOT)

  2. September 30, 2014 / 7:44 am

    I think it means you live in the moment- nothing wrong with that! Don’t beat yourself up, both my baby record books are incomplete! And I can assure you, I love my kids to bits and I’m still a good mum- I think most of us are, because we try and we are motivated by love. Can’t ask more than that!

  3. bodyandfeetretreat
    September 30, 2014 / 8:02 am

    I will admit that I am totally like you. I am certainly not a sentimental kind of mom. I don’t know that I have much recorded of when K was growing up. I don’t feel guilty about it because guilt doesn’t help and it certainly won’t make me feel any better. I am who I am – I do what I do – and, after many years, I have accepted that that is the type of person that I am. Don’t guilt yourself over it – it really isn’t worth it.
    Have the very best day !
    Me xox

  4. September 30, 2014 / 8:49 am

    I don’t think you are unsentimental at all and I’m definitely like you. I have one of those 0-12 month baby frames filled only to the 6 month mark for our last born, our first has the 11 month photo absent and our number 2 baby somehow got hers completed (not sure why?). If you looked at their baby record books you would find that none of them are completed. There are so many little things we have to worry about as Mothers, don’t feel bad, I think we put too much pressure on ourselves sometimes. I bet at least half the Dads out there wouldn’t even know that these baby record books exist, so I think we’re in front there for at least knowing what they are! I wish I was super organised but the reality is I’m not.
    Have a great day!

  5. September 30, 2014 / 1:03 pm

    I was pretty on the ball with Punky, but have dropped it with Zee whch really annoys me. I know how much I love to look through the baby books and things that my Mum has for us kids so I hope to be able to have the same things for my girls, but it’s hard to remember to do it all. I have scrap books and heaps of things collected to stick in to them for Zee from her first year, like I did for Punky, but do you think I can find the motivation for it? Nope! I also missed taking her 11 & 12 months photos and I’m not sure if I should take them now (at 14 months) just so I have them to complete the set or not!

  6. September 30, 2014 / 4:25 pm

    I haven’t written anything in Hayley’s baby record book and shes already 14 months old. Luckily I have recorded so much of her life on my blog or social media. Its quite surprising actually because I’m really sentimental, I can find meaning in the most useless of things.

  7. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    September 30, 2014 / 4:31 pm

    You know what… you’ve spent all your time actually living every moment with him and being present and thats the most important thing!! The best memories are the ones that are in your head anyway! xx

  8. September 30, 2014 / 8:59 pm

    I always have the best intentions for this keepsaking of memories and bits and bobs of the kids. I have even printed a heap of photos which have yet to make it to an orderly album highlighting 1st this and 1st thats. I have my blog now which is great and there are that many pics on my computer now, too many I think. I don’t even record a thing in the book the gov gives us for the baby except for what the health nurse puts in on the visits.

  9. Kathy www.yinyangmother.com
    October 1, 2014 / 6:54 am

    I can tend to be over-sentimental, and I certainly documents lots with my kids, mostly Miss Yin though, much slacker with Little Yang. I think the fact I missed their newborn stage (miss Yin was 13 months when we adopted her, Little Yang 9 months) that I became focused on recording stuff. But the main thing is to be in the moment – memories will take care of themselves with or without photographic or other proof.

  10. October 2, 2014 / 2:55 pm

    I can relate but I know it doesn’t make you a bad mom not to keep “good” records. We are all just different… you will do some things more than the “sentimental” mothers. Our love is most important. xx

  11. Alicia-OneMotherHen
    October 17, 2014 / 9:08 pm

    My first child I kept a record of everything. The following two, meh! I don’t think it makes you any less of a mother xx