Are You Maternal Enough?

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The Bachelor Wants to Know, ‘Are You Maternal’?

Ok, I’ll admit it, I love watching the Bachelor. This season is not quite like the last one with Chiropractor Tim though. For some reason many of the women seem to have an obvious agenda and have taken the whole ‘I will cut in on your private conversation’ thing to a whole new level. Seriously, who does that?

But that hasn’t been the only thing that’s annoyed me this season. Last week one of the group dates was not to a beach, a vineyard or something lovely, it was to a childcare centre where The Bachelor and his ladies ‘happily’ laughed and played with the children. And the reason behind this peculiar group date? To see which of the girls were maternal. What the!?

I would have most certainly been one of the girls booted off at the rose ceremony for not fitting that bill.  You definitely wouldn’t have heard me gushing on about “Oh I just love kids” before I’d even experienced the frustrations  joys of having my own.

Before I had Elliott, I was not maternal at all. I did not love kids, I did not want to hang out with kids, I did not like to hold other peoples babies. I just knew that I always wanted my own children to love and care for and that was that. My maternal instincts didn’t appear until after I actually had Elliott.

So how on earth can The Bachelor, let alone any other man determine the suitability of a woman based on her maternal instincts? It just isn’t fair. Gosh, if Mr. G used that as a gauge of my suitability, I would not be with him 9 years on.

Give a woman the benefit of the doubt, believe that when she has her own children she’ll pick up on those instincts, just like those women are giving men the benefit of the doubt that they’ll be good fathers (and hoping as much as hell they don’t turn into lazy buggers).

Were you always maternal?

P.S. This is for you ladies.

Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

Eva is the Editor and Owner of The Multitasking Woman - a lifestyle and parenting blog.She always has her fingers in many different pies but wouldn't have it any other way. Eva is a Mum to her 4-year-old son, 2 month old daughter, two chickens, one dog and a fish called Bob and a wife to Mr G. They all live happily in their little cottage on the outskirts of Brisbane.

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11 Comments

  1. Denise Mooney
    August 26, 2014 / 2:58 pm

    I was thinking exactly the same thing when i saw that episode! I was never maternal either until I had my little boy. I guess they have to keep thinking up new ideas for the show but that one was really lame:-)

    • August 26, 2014 / 10:32 pm

      I’m pretty sure the producers wanted the shit to hit the fan on social media, that’s why these shows are so unbelievable most times.

  2. Kathy www.yinyangmother.com
    August 26, 2014 / 4:25 pm

    I don’t watch the Bachelor (although interested in the above photo) – a sacrifice I make in order to blog! I think I became truly maternal when we struggled with infertility – nothing like wanting what you can’t seemingly have! I still feel (even when I think I’ve worked through it) guilt that actually as a mother (eventually) I’m still not just looovin every minute of it (or far from it). Very old-fashioned attitude on the show.

    • August 26, 2014 / 10:31 pm

      I think we all have that feeling, Kathy. I know it worried me when I had that feeling early on, but now I know it’s completely normal!

  3. August 26, 2014 / 4:28 pm

    I was always maternal. I am always the first one offering to hold other people’s babies or playing silly buggers with them just for fun. I missed this episode though and given all the hype that its caused on social media I’m thinking I should go back and watch it online. I’m not really into Blake he just doesn’t do it for me and I can’t get into his whole Barry Manalo voice – it just sounds like he has a constant cold to me. Doesnt matter too much though cos I mainly watch the show to watch how the women act – its a fascinating study in psychology lol.

    • August 26, 2014 / 10:30 pm

      That’s exactly why I watch it Toni. Blake isn’t my type either, the women are fascinating because they’re unlike any women I know myself!

  4. August 26, 2014 / 9:34 pm

    I was always maternal, but oddly enough I don’t think I am now. Not overly anyway, with kids that aren’t my own. I put that down to sheer exhaustion though 🙂
    I don’t watch the bachelor. Those shows make me want to throw things at the TV!

  5. Emma Fahy Davis
    August 26, 2014 / 9:53 pm

    I just can’t watch The Bachelor, not even with Mrs Woog’s entertaining Twitter commentaries. I’ve never really felt very maternal, I always feel like I’m faking it, but people around me tell me I am so perhaps I’m too hard on myself.

    • August 26, 2014 / 10:29 pm

      We are always way too hard on ourselves, aren’t we? I haven’t seen Mrs. Woog’s Twitter commentaries, will have to check them out!

  6. August 27, 2014 / 9:51 am

    Everyone said that I was maternal but not sure that I was, they said it probably because I was a nanny but then again I was also a nanny in NY that went out every weekend and blew $300 USD a week on clothes, shoes and fun! So if only they knew!