Embrace the Mess


 Last week was a total bitch, smacked down again with another mystery illness that put me out for 3 days.
I was lucky, though, one of those days was Elliott’s daycare day and so I could at least try to recuperate in peace at the same time as trying to catch up on some work. I thought I’d only be out for that one day, but as usual, my body decided to take the next two more days to get back to normal.

Our usual playgroup visit was cancelled because I just could not get myself out the door. ‘Stuff all the media talk’ I thought as I went and put a movie on the television for Elliott and left it on for most of the day. I just had to find a way to get through the day while looking after Elliott. He was a little gem and alternated between TV and playing with his toys in his bedroom.
Friday wasn’t much better for at least half the day, but Elliott had his energy back and decided to revert back to a little devil he tends to be when he doesn’t get his own way or has too much energy to burn, this really tested my patience and stamina. All I could think about his ‘how on earth would I have coped if I had two kids when I felt like this?’ 
I looked at the state of my house, nothing had been touched for most of the week. Here’s proof: 

I also had the groceries to buy before I went away for the weekend, I didn’t want to leave the house with nothing in the fridge for Elliott and Mr. G, so off to Aldi I went. What a huge mistake! As I tried to gather every last ounce of energy I had left and as I was sucking in the big ones, I managed to get Elliott into the trolley (the main part of the trolley because he refuses to sit in the child seat) and we started our shop which I had planned to be quick and pain free. Ha, yeah right, very wishful thinking on my part.

Elliott’s patience was at an all time low, he wanted to stand up in the trolley, he wanted to climb out of the trolley, he wanted to run down the isle and put anything and everything he picked up into the damn trolley! In my effort to make him sit down or get back in the trolley he’d scream and throw a tantrum.  An old duck in front of us must have forgotten what it’s like to have children as she turned her head back towards us and glared at me more than once, probably trying to telepathically relay a message to me saying something like ‘shut your damn child up’ while I was trying to send a telepathic message right back to her saying ‘back in your box love, back in your box.’

It got to the point where I was over the shop, my energy had faded and what I had in the trolley was just going to have to be enough. I didn’t get the bananas, the sultanas or peanut butter for Mr. G, but I’m sure we will get by.

It was lunch time by the time we got home and Elliott had grabbed the loaf of white bread (Mr. G’s bread) and jam from the grocery bags. I wasn’t going to fight this battle, he was just going to have a white bread and jam sandwich, something I knew would keep him happy and something that wasn’t going to make me feel guilty this time. He inhaled the sandwich. Sometimes you’ve just gotta do what you gotta do, right?

I think it’s the first time in a very long time that I actually accepted that I couldn’t do everything in a week, that my house was a pig sty and that was ok, that there were some groceries missing but that was ok too. The best thing was that because I didn’t worry about it or let it make me feel guilty, I was less stressed and much better for it.

Really, in the big scheme of things, I thought to myself, who else cares if my house is messy, the groceries are three-quarters done or that my son ate a jam sandwich on white bread? No one! Oh and we had microwave meals for dinner too. Pfft. I’m so not a domestic goddess and proud of it!

Have you been able to embrace mess yet?

Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

Eva is the Editor and Owner of The Multitasking Woman. She always has her fingers in many different pies but wouldn't have it any other way. Eva is a freelance writer, a social media manager, a Mum to her six-year-old son, one-year-old daughter, six chickens and Benny the dog and wife to Mr G. They all live happily in their little worker's cottage in Ipswich, Queensland, Australia.
Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

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  1. June 30, 2014 / 4:52 am

    Welcome to life as a Mum of a large family! Lol! Hope you are on the mend. I am a neat freak but sometimes I have to just let life roll on around me. Don’t stress, it will be tidy again soon. 😉

  2. June 30, 2014 / 6:44 am

    Great post Eva, sometimes we just have to let thing go (sooooo hard I know!) I’m currently looking at our filthy floor which need a good vac and mop, it’s taking every ounce of strength not to bring out the vacuum as I know it will wake them up 🙂 REmember to look after yourself x

  3. Deb - An Inspirational Journey
    June 30, 2014 / 6:57 am

    A very refreshing post! xx

  4. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    June 30, 2014 / 7:29 am

    Absolutely!!! Sometimes it’s impossible to do it all! Good on you for looking after yourself! xx

  5. June 30, 2014 / 8:37 am

    Ah the mess… I know all too well about embracing the mess. I used to stress myself out so much over keeping a clean house and now things get done when I am able and feel like it. It is hygienic, the child is always fed, changed and clean and dinner even if it is eggs on toast is always served so I’m content with that. Some weeks I let my house look like the local dump because my body is too sore and I am too tired running around after a toddler while pregnant. Hope you are feeling much better 🙂

  6. June 30, 2014 / 10:32 am

    I have frozen meals for dinner every night that Trent does night shift. Ive had to look after Hayley by myself when Im on deaths door before and the mess and tv dont matter. Whatever gets you through to bedtime I say!

  7. June 30, 2014 / 12:13 pm

    Hugh inhaled 3 pieces of bread with jam on it yesterday, about an hour after his bowl of porridge. I wouldn’t class that as being unhealthy at all. The boy eats so I am happy. Embrace the mess. You will find your cleaning mojo once again and will blitz your house back to cinderella status once again. Glad you are feeling better and that you had a lovely time in Byron. x

  8. June 30, 2014 / 1:24 pm

    Well done!!! I live in mess too, and it is so lovely to see others mess. Thank you for sharing your imprecations with us. I trust that you are feeling better now. xx

  9. Denise Mooney
    June 30, 2014 / 1:32 pm

    I hope you’re feeling better Eva. I had a similar thing happen a couple of weeks ago so I can really relate to this. I caught a nasty bug and couldn’t get out of bed for about 5 days and it was so hard to manage with my little one. When mum goes down everything really does go a bit pear-shaped! x

  10. June 30, 2014 / 3:20 pm

    I think flus/stomach bugs/etc. are circling Europe! Everyone in Italy is sick.. that being said I hate people who give those “looks” when the kids are misbehaving – they’ve either obviously forgotten what it’s like being a parent or just suck at life…

  11. June 30, 2014 / 4:50 pm

    So sorry to read that you were feeling so sick this past week but so happy to read that you are embracing the mess! Honestly, my house looks like yours does in those pics most of the time. When I am expecting a guest, I run around and do a mad clean-up. Sometimes. I’ve been embracing the mess for as long as I can remember. Mess is a part of life. There are so many other things in life to stress about that, like you said, in the scheme of things, who really cares? Poo to that old duck in the supermarket. She sounds like a nasty old bag of goods. She could have offered to help you, but I guess that never even crossed her mind. Have a wonderful week hun. xx

  12. June 30, 2014 / 6:45 pm

    Ahh the messy house, it’s hard to live with but if you can it makes life way less stressful! I hope you’ve had a great start to the week lovely – it was fab to meet you in person. x

  13. June 30, 2014 / 7:59 pm

    I try, I really do….but with 6 people in the house if I left it for even one day, we wouldn’t even be able to walk in a clear path!! I feel more stressed when the house is ultra messy, a bit of mess I can live with….. I have to get into my younger girls bedroom this week and give it a good clean, god only knows what I’m going to find in there………

  14. Bubfriendly Winnie
    June 30, 2014 / 10:39 pm

    You should come and see our house Eva! I totally embrace mess! Luckily I have a hubby that cleans the house on the weekends! Don’t be too hard on yourself! We have been hit by the flu here too! Hourly wakes at night is making Mummy very grumpy!!!

  15. Lisa Berriman
    July 1, 2014 / 12:00 am

    I have my moments when I can cope with mess and those when I cannot. Today I made the kids pack up the toys by telling them whatever was left on the floor by the time I counted to 20 was going in the bin. It worked SO well! I do feel better and can relax more when it is tidy

  16. July 1, 2014 / 5:18 am

    Thanks for the link-up! I am with you on not being a Domestic Goddess 🙂 There’s more important things right?

  17. July 1, 2014 / 9:36 am

    Didn’t get a chance to get back yesterday to comment, but I am here today! Because, life! I live in a house that the vast majority of the time looks like your pictures above and I really don’t care. There are much more important things to be doing like playing with the girls and things that I enjoy like blogging! Sure I have a day or two a week here it just becomes too much and I become the speed-cleaning demon from hell, but then once it’s done I’m free to go back to embracing the mess that is inevitably back in 5 minutes anyway!

    Hope you’re fully recovered now though, there is nothing worse than trying to look after children when you’re not feeling great xx

  18. July 1, 2014 / 2:51 pm

    Thanks Kylie, I’m all better now. What you’ve said is totally what I’m trying to embrace. Life is short and I definitely don’t want to spend it cleaning!

  19. July 1, 2014 / 2:52 pm

    Thanks Winnie, feeling heaps better. I am lucky I have a helpful husband too and one that understands I’m not just here to clean!

  20. July 1, 2014 / 2:53 pm

    I can just imagine Mandy, 6 people vs. my 3 would tend to make things messy in a short space of time. If I can remember what me and my two sisters were like, yes we could tend to be messy.!

  21. July 1, 2014 / 2:54 pm

    It was wonderful meeting you too, finally! I can definitely feel the difference when I’m not worrying about mess!

  22. July 1, 2014 / 2:54 pm

    Mess is definitely part of life and I must remember that a very clean house is the sign of wasted life.

  23. July 1, 2014 / 2:56 pm

    I reckon it’s one of the toughest parts of motherhood, handling kids when you’re sick and even in the days after while you’re trying to get back on track. It’s all good this week though!

  24. July 1, 2014 / 2:57 pm

    I’m not so sure when my house will be back at Cinderella status, I don’t think it’s ever been there really.

  25. July 1, 2014 / 2:59 pm

    Yes, running after a toddler while heavily pregnant would be a challenge. I haven’t had to do that yet and that’s one thing that freaks me out about falling pregnant again with my energetic toddler.

  26. July 1, 2014 / 9:23 pm

    I believe messy has been my middle name for a long time, so I guess I embrace the mess! Glad to hear that you are on the mend! x