What a beautiful mind Audrey Hepburn had. I have to agree with her statement, this is exactly how I feel about life.
I see many people who talk about regrets and to be honest, I don’t have any, what a waste of time pondering on regrets. Let’s face it, there’s absolutely nothing we can do about what has happened in the past. It’s been, it’s gone and now all we can focus on is what is happening at this very moment.
I could very easily have regrets about not continuing my honours year at university, but I wouldn’t be where I am today if that were to happen. I could very easily regret not having children closer together, but I wouldn’t have experienced the wonderful three years with complete focus on Elliott. I could have very easily regretted moving from our big modern home to a tiny house that was 95 years older, but it’s brought us so many more opportunities. I could have regretted telling my old employer to politely ‘shove it up your arse’ but kicking them to the kerb when I was a new mum brought about so many opportunities that I had never dreamed of.
Quite frankly, there’s just no time to have regrets, it’s about looking at the positives attached to those things that did or didn’t happen. If you can’t find a positive then take comfort in the fact that you’re not magic nor do you have a genie in a bottle to grant you three wishes (none of us do) and there’s always another chance in life.
Audrey Hepburn also referred to her miscarriages. I have had three and write about them here, here and here and I honestly don’t hold regret for any of them. Don’t get me wrong, they truly upset me and hold a particular place of mourning in my heart, but they happened and there’s nothing I can do about them but to move forward, become stronger, get myself checked (which I have) and be grateful for the wonderful little family I have.
Regrets to me are a waste of energy when all of this energy could be put into the things we are doing at this very moment. I know there are some things in life that are difficult to get over, but I reckon the sooner you can focus on the now and the future and find the positive outcomes of a less than ideal situation, the better off you’ll be.
Do you feel the same, or do the sad times stand out in your mind?
Today I’m linking up with Essentially Jess for IBOT