Me time, time out, relaxation, mummy time…whatever you like to call it, this time I have on my own to do what makes me happy is my sanity saver.
But I hear people saying “but isn’t being a Mum to your child what makes you happy?” My response is yes and no. Of course I’m happy when I get to be with my son, when I get to play, when I get to cuddle. But I’m also happy when I get a chance to do the things that make me who I am and I am most definitely more than just a mother. I am a friend, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a career woman and most definitely a woman with many aspirations and big dreams that I simply cannot neglect.
If I am to be all the things that make me who I am, I need to take time for each of them. I don’t see it as selfish, it is looking after me so I can 100% focus on my family and be happy doing it. It’s about the quality of the time I’m with my family rather than the quantity of the time. The time I spend with my family I want to be fully present, without stress, worry or disappointment that I haven’t reached personal goals, I don’t want these things to have a negative effect on my family. If taking time out for myself to I read my favourite magazine for 20 minutes, go for a pedi-cure or go away with a friend overnight is what is going to help me get that quality time, so be it.
I’ve heard many other mums say they simply don’t get the chance for ‘me time’. I say you’ve just got to make the time, plan ahead and book it into your calendar. If you want a night away with your friends or even a night out to dinner, stop now and book it in your diary. If you’re keen to have a pedicure, make a phone call for an appointment. If you’re keen to have a night away with your husband/partner, contact your parents/sister/friends and arrange a baby sitter. All it takes is a bit of pre-planning and listening to the voice in your head saying ‘come on, let’s do it!’ If going away is too difficult for whatever reason, still make time to do what you love. Schedule it in. Arrange it with your partner. Make sure you do it.
And then once you get used to booking in time for yourself, you’ll find it becomes a bit of habit, a habit that will starts to pay off for you and those around you and you’ll find that guilt starts to ease because you see what great benefits it has. You’ll have more of you to give.