Mummy Mondays – What they didn’t tell me about being a Mum


Little E has had his fair share of illnesses these past 6 weeks. It started with vomiting and diarrhea, then a full body rash, then severe croup that required hospitalisation, then hand foot & mouth disease and now he’s fighting off a secondary chest infection of conjunctivitis! Oh how I’m looking forward to seeing a healthy and happy little boy who doesn’t look so miserable! It breaks my heart.

Before being a mum, I knew kids got sick and I had heard talk about children in childcare/daycare picking up bugs, but what I didn’t know was how common these ailments were and that for many children, it was normal for them to go through their first number of months of starting daycare picking up various nasties.  I did not even realise that even sending Little E to daycare just one day a week would mean he was susceptible to so many bugs and get so sick so often! Now I realise that it doesn’t matter – one day or five. The other thing I didn’t realise is that so many childhood illnesses (like hand, foot & mouth disease) show no symptoms when they’re contagious, making it even harder to control because most of the time as a parent, you’re none the wiser.
My mother guilt has been working overtime. You know how it goes “I mustn’t have been feeding him enough fruit & veggies if he’s getting sick” or “he looks a bit on the lighter side, I think he’s lost weight, is there something wrong with what I’m feeding him?”  Or “Am I not being careful enough with hygiene?”  These are the questions I have asked myself many times and to make matters worse, I’ve had people comment on his weight which made me feel even more guilty (a Doctors visit has confirmed all is normal though).

I’ve actually felt bad telling people that Little E was sick again in fear of being judged because my son was sick all the time and that I mustn’t be looking after him properly. It wasn’t until I got speaking to mums at playgroup and other friends who told me they went through the same thing and that their children had gone through the same illnesses. I felt somewhat relieved and I learned that what Elliott had gone through was quite common. Perhaps other mums felt the same way I do, perhaps this is why it is not spoken about openly, perhaps this is why I didn’t really know how ‘normal’ what Elliott was going through was? 

Another thing no one really prepared me for was the raw emotion involved in seeing your child sick and suffering. Oh the feeling of helplessness when all you can give them is Panadol for a mouth full of sores that don’t allow them to swallow or eat. The gut wrenching feeling of knowing that your poor baby cannot tell you that their tummy hurts, that their mouth hurts, that they feel sick, that they’re hungry or that they have a headache because they can’t talk and their only way to communicate is by pointing or crying. It has gutted me to no end. 
So, I’m hanging onto the comment that many people have made to me, Little E’s exposure to these illnesses will help build his immunity and that it’s better to happen now and not in his first year of school when he’d miss out on a lot of valuable learning.  But, the typical worrier in me still has something in the back of my mind, “perhaps Little E may always be a child that gets sick or is susceptible to chest infections?” Only time will tell and I’m sure (and I hope) that in time I will look back and realise that it was a necessary phase that he had to go through, a phase that has passed and we can experience months of a happy and healthy bouncing little boy. 
Did your children go through the same? 

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Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

Eva is the Editor and Owner of The Multitasking Woman - a lifestyle and parenting blog.She always has her fingers in many different pies but wouldn't have it any other way. Eva is a Mum to her 4-year-old son, 2 month old daughter, two chickens, one dog and a fish called Bob and a wife to Mr G. They all live happily in their little cottage on the outskirts of Brisbane.

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  1. August 11, 2013 / 2:00 pm

    Thank you Eva for featuring our activity 🙂 And congratulations to Allison for getting featured too, what a lovely post she wrote 🙂

  2. August 12, 2013 / 3:41 am

    Eva, don’t beat yourself up about how sick he is. It really is just one of those things sometimes. I’m going through the same thing with my kids this winter – it’s MissyMoo3’s first winter in daycare (1 day per week) and MissyMoo2’s first winter in pre-school (and she had a break of a couple of years between stopping daycare and starting preschool). Between the two of them we’ve had someone sick most weeks through winter. The worst was when all three kids had gastro ON THE SAME NIGHT! I felt like I was letting the family down with hygiene (even though it was a bug picked up at daycare) and disinfected everything afterwards. Yes, it’s another one of those parenting things you don’t understand until you’ve been through it!

  3. August 12, 2013 / 5:11 am

    It is that time of year for runny noses and coughs. One of mine had croup this year too. Hopefully he will come good when the weather warms up, don’t feel guilty, all kids get sick, as long as you’re there for cuddles and soup making that’s all that’s important 🙂

    • August 13, 2013 / 9:58 am

      Thanks Alicia. I must admit, I’ve been loving the cuddles, Little E is usually too busy running around!

  4. August 12, 2013 / 7:28 am

    Isn’t it awful when they are sick. Poor little tikes! There’s a lot going around this year…

    • August 13, 2013 / 9:59 am

      It sure is. I’m amazed at how much is going around, it seems everyone I talk to has a child that’s sick.

  5. August 12, 2013 / 9:54 am

    It’s so hard not to feel guilty but it’s just so easy for them to pick up bugs. Poor darlin and poor you! Get well little buddy!

  6. August 12, 2013 / 5:34 pm

    Thank you so much for featuring our post. It was tender to my heart so I am glad you enjoyed it. Totally relate to your post, all too well. I remember! Hang in there good mama

  7. August 13, 2013 / 10:01 am

    No problems at all Allison. I’m hanging in there and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel today!

  8. August 16, 2013 / 8:17 pm

    Oh, I hurt just reading this post! I can not imagine…. It is so hard to watch them when they don’t feel well!
    Mine haven’t been around many kids yet…but my oldest starts kindergarten this week. I’m sure we are in for many, many illnesses this year.

    • August 24, 2013 / 9:24 am

      It certainly is the hardest thing I’ve had to do, watching my little boy suffer but he’s all good now and I’m now a full time stay at home mum and so he won’t be in daycare anymore so hopefully that will mean less sickness. I think he’s had his fair share!

  9. September 13, 2013 / 10:54 am

    A Great post. All readers will definitely like this post. Looking forward for your next post.