No More Porridge!

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The battle continues with fussy eaters…

The one thing I’ve noticed while I’ve been doing this motherhood thing is that I always feel like I’m the only one dealing with the crap my toddler throws at me. I know this isn’t true, but when this so called ‘crap’ is happening, I always find myself wishing that my toddler was better behaved or had a better appetite, like other kids.

Sometimes I fail to remember that Elliott isn’t the only toddler that refuses to eat his dinner or that only likes certain types of foods (sweet food, porridge, carbs, anything white). There are lots of us dealing with fussy eaters, right?

But, in my frustration of yet another meal being pushed aside and having to provide porridge as a meal for the 500th time, I let it rip on Facebook.

As much as Facebook can be a timewaster and home to a bunch of idiots, I can admit that it’s had it’s benefits in the midst of my ‘fussy eater breakdowns’.  One, Facebook has given me a good kick up the bum when I’ve read peoples responses and two, it’s snapped me back to the reality that I’m actually not the only one that’s been there, done that.

This was my Facebook post

Oh how I wish I had a child that ate his dinner and didn’t say yuck to every single thing I prepare! To have a child that enjoys his food is a wish of mine! 

And these were the responses

Mine all like different things and those things are subject to change at a moment’s notice – but guaranteed, green vegetables are a unanimous no – it does my head in!

It will change in time. Pick your battles.

Blenders are great at hiding healthy food groups !!

Same. Charlie would prefer dry weet bix to a home cooked meal.

I watched something on the super nanny where they didn’t prepare anything else at lunch, if he didn’t like it he didn’t eat, and then he was hungry for dinner and ate everything including green veggies. Not sure if that’s torture but missing a meal won’t kill you. I am not sure what I would do but it worked amazingly on the show.

Mine all like different things too, it’s a bit like ‘oh, she’s eating that, so I won’t’ – bit of power play I think. But maybe Deb from @Kids Dig Food could help Eva – she makes food fun

I used ‘self serve’ at dinner time {which was sometimes at 4.30pm!} with my two for ages – I would put all the things for dinner on a platter in the middle of the table with a small pair of tongs each. it wasn’t always night time foods either, i used to put bits of apple, yoghurt, rice, meat, diced salad (kinda like a non saucy salsa), cut bits of veggies with toothpicks in them, cubed cheese, anything that i had left in my fridge sometimes! It used to take aaaaaages to eat, and can be a bit messy, but we would sit together and talk and laugh which makes the {whole experience} more light hearted and would make the more structured dinner times have good vibes, and not so rushed and frustrating. he won’t starve himself on purpose xx

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All us Mums (and Dads) are going through (or have gone through) the same. Although it’s frustrating, my friend that said her son prefers weet-bix over a home cooked meal made me feel SO much better. The other Facebook friend who mentioned the blender removed my guilt in an instant because I had done this before but felt really bad about giving Elliott smoothies instead of ‘real’ food.  And in the big scheme of things, the fact that Elliott is eating porridge is better than a lot of meals I can think of.

So thank you other Mums, thank you for your honesty and confirming that most of us have it really tough in the toddler eating department!

 

Is your toddler a good eater or a fussy eater? What do you try and do to make sure they get the good stuff in them? I’d love some tips!

 

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Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)

Eva is the Editor and Owner of The Multitasking Woman - a lifestyle and parenting blog.She always has her fingers in many different pies but wouldn't have it any other way. Eva is a Mum to her 4-year-old son, 2 month old daughter, two chickens, one dog and a fish called Bob and a wife to Mr G. They all live happily in their little cottage on the outskirts of Brisbane.

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  1. Kaz @ MeltingMoments
    October 3, 2014 / 8:50 am

    I can say that I am a part of that club too. Dora is sooo fussy and the amount of food I waste is appalling. I try and make sure she gets lot of good snacks through the day so I don’t sweat it if she only takes a few bites of dinner. It used to be a lot more of a song and dance.

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:11 pm

      That’s what bugs me too, the waste. But, most of the time my husband seems to polish it off!

  2. October 3, 2014 / 10:56 am

    My 8yr (#1twin) was the fussiest toddler ever – I feel your frustration.
    If I didn’t breastfeed him till 4yrs I am sure he would have happily starved. I did try everything – his favourite was plain rice and a few fruits. Now he is still fussy but we give him what he eats every night raw carrot and baby spinach leaves.Every night .
    If encouraged or even a little bit forced – He was a GAGGER and vomiter – yes right back into the dinner.
    Meat (except mince) is no problem. No mixed meals (like stirfry- so we give it separate with raw vegies).
    He is fine and healthy , at 5 he finally started to eat eggs and that was GOLD.
    His twin brother ate everything – so it nothing you are doing and give him to time .

    I saw an icecube tray (or muffin tray) used with bite sized foods – let him put in what he likes and add a few extra bites.

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:12 pm

      It’s so good to hear your side of things Trish. There is hope!

  3. The Plumbette
    October 3, 2014 / 1:11 pm

    My Esther is still fussy at 4 but I give her the same food at dinner as everyone else and she can either eat it or go hungry. Magdalene will eat everything and anything. I also thought it was my fault that Esther was fussy but realised it was just her. Its frustrating but I take one meal at a time and celebrate the wins. X

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:13 pm

      I blame my fussy toddler on my husband, he’s the fussy eater.

  4. October 4, 2014 / 6:52 pm

    I have 2 fussy eaters and 2 who will eat practically anything!! One of the later is always in the cupboard trying to get food (I have to really watch her) The youngest I can’t get any food into her!! Frustrating!!

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:13 pm

      It is frustrating and I just can’t work it out!

  5. October 6, 2014 / 8:43 pm

    Hugh ate toast or bananas for tea for goodness knows how long. Edie has just started the fussy business. Just this evening she wouldn’t eat her tea or the fruit cut up on the plate left over from lunch. I ended up giving her a kebab stick and she piled that fruit on like nobodies business and ate it all and even asked for more grapes…Unbelievable!!!! Im just happy if they eat…Tough love for a little while, draw it out hoping they’ll be that hungry they’ll eat. Sometimes it works, sometimes no. The joys!! One day they’ll be eating me out of the house….

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:14 pm

      Oh I hear you, glad it’s not just me!

  6. Grace
    October 8, 2014 / 2:28 pm

    My boys can get pretty fussy. Which has made me lose my will to cook anything out of the comfort zone of spaghetti and noodles. I used to feel guilty about it but now I think, meh. As long as they’re eating well and plenty of veggies (which, luckily they do), I’m okay with it. Everything is in phases, I think…

    • October 8, 2014 / 3:14 pm

      That’s what I think, Elliott is really good with his fruit so at least he’s getting that goodness. You can only do what you can do, hey?

  7. October 10, 2014 / 10:41 am

    One of my boys lived on milk, fruit, and air for almost 8 or so years. Every so often I would take him to the doctor, but my son was growing properly and I stopped worring. Then we hit the tweens and at that point he ate non stop lol!

  8. Sonya N.
    October 17, 2014 / 7:33 pm

    I just wanna say, after reading your email today, that I really enjoy your blog and I can totally relate about toddlers not eating. Mine just turned 3 and is on the 1st percentile for weight! So I REALLY know about toddlers not eating! Probably 60% of his calories come from breastmilk still.