Are you really suffering from being too busy?
How many times have you said ‘I’m just too busy’ when someone asks you how you are?
I reckon I’ve said it plenty of times in the past couple of weeks, but, if you know me well, you’d know that I’m the type of person who thrives on being busy; I find it hard to sit still and do ‘nothing’.
BUT perhaps I’m doing myself a disservice? Perhaps I shouldn’t be happy about the fact that I like being crazy busy? Maybe I have an illness called busyness and am making things harder for myself than they should be?
Being too busy for no reason
Let’s face it, I’m not struggling to put food on the table, and I’m not working three jobs to make ends meet. That is being busy for a reason. Apart from having to the times when I have sick kids at home, and I have to juggle a sick child and work, my busyness is self-inflicted, and I have no one else to blame!
Busyness is entirely in my control
Have you ever wanted things and people to move a little faster because you’re in a hurry, like when you’re in a slow line at the grocery store or waiting for petrol? I have, and it made me feel worse because I was overreacting to the situation, hoping that in some magical way, it would create a sense of urgency in the other people in the line. It’s all mind games.
Even on days when I am crazy busy, it’s usually my fault because I was the one who booked in too much work or too many appointments in the first place.
It’s clear to me that I’m the one making it harder and busier on myself. Sound familiar?
Why are we so busy?
We can thank the society we live in for this need to be continuously switched on all the time. It’s us comparing ourselves to others on social media, needing a better career, a bigger house, nicer clothes; it’s all driving us to be better and therefore busier.
The problem with this is that we are missing out, BIG TIME. We are missing out on the world around us and we miss out on what it feels like to be present within ourselves.
I once read a story about famous violinist Joshua Bell. Joshua played one of the most difficult classical masterpieces ever known on a $3 Million violin in a Washington subway. Disguised as a street performer, 1000 people passed him, and only 27 stopped because he didn’t look important and because people were far too busy to even notice. How sad is this!
How to remove unnecessary busyness from your life
Come on, let’s all stop being so bloody busy for no damn reason! Here’s how to do it:
- Wake up and remind yourself every morning that you will not be unnecessarily busy or stressed
- Identify when your busyness is a choice
- Keep life in order and don’t overschedule yourself
- Learn how to say no!
- Make lists and eliminate the non-essential items in your day.
- Disconnect from the internet/social media. It’s a time waster.
- Watch less TV ( Are you prepared to cancel your Netflix subscription?)
- Schedule some time out for yourself
- Revisit your priorities
- Add time to your daily schedule to take time out, e.g. to have a proper lunch break
Do you find yourself in the ‘too busy’ trap as I do?