I think it’s very much a reflection of my personality, personal choice and commitment. You see, I’m a bit particular about who I’m friends with. No, I’m not being a snob, it’s just that, if I don’t click with someone in a shortish conversation and I can’t find much in common, I don’t really pursue anything further. It’s a feeling I get in my gut, my instinct. The other thing is that I hold things close to my chest. I’ve never been one to be in a close knit group of ‘girlfriends’ who share every little secret and parts of their lives because I just don’t feel comfortable doing it, and, I’ve seen women turn really nasty when something is taken the wrong way or out of context and I aint got no time for that shiz!
The other reason I don’t have lots of friends or a best friend is my ability to commit. My family is my foremost priority in terms of who I spend my valuable time with and with running my own business and blog; I’m hard pressed to find much extra time for myself let alone doing things with friends. Now that I’ve written that, it sounds a bit selfish, but I’m sure you know what I mean.
I’m thankful for the few good friends I have. They are the women that I might not see for ages but we can pick up a conversation from where we left off. They’re the ones I might not see all the time but if I need to, I can blow off some steam with them if I’m stressed or unhappy and they feel comfortable doing the same with me. They’re the friends that feel the exact same release when we’re able to enjoy a child free coffee or dinner together.
Since becoming a mum and business owner, I’ve never had such little time and I’m still trying to work out how to prioritise it. I continue to remind myself not to feel guilty about not seeing or contacting my friends all the time. With only a couple of days spare each week to fit in time with family, cleaning, groceries, to run errands and with friends that also work….time with friends is limited and that’s just a normal part of life.
To my friends that read this, I may not see you all the time but am grateful for the times we do get to enjoy together x.
Are you like me and have a few close friends or do you have lots of friends? How do you find time to see them?
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