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Why I’m Happy to Have Only a Few Friends

only a few friends
I can’t remember who it was I was talking to but we were on the subject of friends. I know of people who have LOTS of friends or are in a close knit group of friends but me, well I have only a few friends and I’m happy with that although I have beaten myself up over it in the past.

I think it’s very much a reflection of my personality, personal choice and commitment. You see, I’m a bit particular about who I’m friends with. No, I’m not being a snob, it’s just that, if I don’t click with someone in a shortish conversation and I can’t find much in common, I don’t really pursue anything further. It’s a feeling I get in my gut, my instinct.  The other thing is that I hold things close to my chest. I’ve never been one to be in a close knit group of ‘girlfriends’ who share every little secret and parts of their lives because I just don’t feel comfortable doing it, and, I’ve seen women turn really nasty when something is taken the wrong way or out of context and I aint got no time for that shiz!

The other reason I don’t have lots of friends or a best friend is my ability to commit. My family is my foremost priority in terms of who I spend my valuable time with and with running my own business and blog; I’m hard pressed to find much extra time for myself let alone doing things with friends.  Now that I’ve written that, it sounds a bit selfish, but I’m sure you know what I mean.

I’m thankful for the few good friends I have. They are the women that I might not see for ages but we can pick up a conversation from where we left off. They’re the ones I might not see all the time but if I need to, I can blow off some steam with them if I’m stressed or unhappy and they feel comfortable doing the same with me. They’re the friends that feel the exact same release when we’re able to enjoy a child free coffee or dinner together.

Since becoming a mum and business owner, I’ve never had such little time and I’m still trying to work out how to prioritise it. I continue to remind myself not to feel guilty about not seeing or contacting my friends all the time. With only a couple of days spare each week to fit in time with family, cleaning, groceries, to run errands and with friends that also work….time with friends is limited and that’s just a normal part of life.

To my friends that read this, I may not see you all the time but am grateful for the times we do get to enjoy together x.

Are you like me and have a few close friends or do you have lots of friends? How do you find time to see them?


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  1. April 6, 2015 / 8:03 am

    I totally agree…. quality over quantity when it comes to friendships. Especially as we get older. Xx

  2. April 6, 2015 / 8:14 am

    I’m the same Eva, just a handful of close friends – and I barely have time to see them! But whenever we do catch up, whether it’s been weeks or sometimes months, we pick up exactly where we left off.

  3. April 6, 2015 / 9:01 am

    Nope, just a few friends here. And that is the way I like it. I don’t have time for a lot of different friendships, who does? As we get older and our kids get older, it seems what spare time we do have is taken up with kids activities and sport! I love my closest friends and they mean the world to me, but even now it seems that sometimes I struggle to find the balance between seeing them and spending time at home catching up on housework in between working part time.

  4. April 6, 2015 / 10:24 am

    I’m definitely the same. A couple of good friends I see sometimes. Although I can be really antisocial and like my own time a lot. I blame my not so distant past career of psychologist … So many people (especially in the prison system) so I like a quiet life.

  5. April 6, 2015 / 11:44 am

    Definitely quality over quantity, although I have found that as I get older and my children are all at school, I am actually back in the space of enjoying making new connections. One of the nicest parts of blogging and running an online business is the inspiring women you come across that you would otherwise never meet.

  6. April 6, 2015 / 2:30 pm

    Ultimately hubby is my best friend…..we tell each other everything that others probably tell their friends. I have the friends that I catch up with via card or email but I agree with you that spare time is sooo limited and I prefer to spend it with hubby and the girls.

  7. April 6, 2015 / 4:23 pm

    Happy Monday and thank you for hosting this wonderful linky! Have a great week! xx Ashleigh @SimplyWright

  8. April 6, 2015 / 6:26 pm

    A few good friends is all you need. I am like you and like to suss people out very quickly. Gut instinct is usually spot on.
    Happy Easter!

  9. April 7, 2015 / 12:21 am

    Thanks for hosting! This was my first time linking up! Love the giraffes . Have a lovely week!

  10. June 1, 2015 / 4:56 pm

    I’ve moved around a fair bit over the years so I don’t have those comfortable circles that others do. I still have wonderful friends from school, uni, work, sport, etc, but I’m only in touch with most of them on Facebook, etc, as they are too far away. I definitely made friends more easily before I had kids. These days I’m very happy to have my life revolve around our little family, but sometimes it would be nice to have some close friends nearby to have over for a BBQ or something like that.

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